Divorce inevitably brings up a wide range of emotions for everyone in a family system. Grief, anger, guilt, sadness, loss, and confusion are all feelings that may come up during this difficult and life-changing decision.
Divorcing parents can access help and support in their quest to do what’s right for their children. Communication is the most important aspect of being able to effectively co-parent. In divorce situations, communicating with the other parent is sometimes challenging for parents if there is resentment about the failed relationship. It may become too difficult to put these differences aside in order to communicate effectively. In these situations, the use of a Parenting Coordinator or Family Mediator can be an excellent solution.
“This is probably one of the most difficult challenges any parent could face – learning to love the other parent enough to make the children first.”
– Iyanla Vanzant
As parents try to not lose sight of your children’s best interest and the importance of their relationship with both parents. When emotions are high parents sometimes become unwilling to compromise with one another. I encourage parents to look at the ability to compromise with one another as a strength and not a weakness. The only people in the family system to lose are the children if the parents argue.
If you can work together as parents to make decisions for your family – agree to do this. Putting the decision making into the hands of the court is not always in the best interest of your family. Court and attorney fees can grow year after year. Communication, Compromise, and Co-Parenting is a much better path to success for your children.