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Self Help Reading Resources

We have developed a collection of reading resources that have been recommended by our therapists and clients.  Please review the disclosure at the bottom of the page regarding the links provided.  If you have any reading resources that would be good to add to our list, please email our office at: kcoughlinlcsw@gmail.com. 

Addictions in Family Systems

Anger

Anxiety

Business Books – Also see Leadership Books below

Children

  • Growing Friendships: A Kids’ Guide to Making & Keeping Friends

Coparenting / Divorce

  • Children of the Self-Absorbed – Nina Brown
  • Co-Parenting After Divorce: A GPS for Healthy Kids – Debra K. Carter
  • Co-Parenting Handbook – Karen Bonnett
  •  Custody Chaos, Personal Peace – Jeff Wittmann
  • Divorce Poison – Richard Warshak
  • Divorce Book for Parents – Vicki Lansky
  • Ex-Etiquette for Parents – Jann Blackstone-Ford and Sharyl Jupe
  • For Better or for Worse – Mavis Hetherington
  • How to avoid the divorce from hell – and dance together at your daughter’s wedding – M. Sue Talia
  • Joint Custody with a jerk, raising a child with an uncooperative Ex – Julie Ross and Judy Corcoran
  •  Learning from Divorce – Christine Coates and E. Robert LaCrosse
  • Mom’s House, Dad’s House – Isolina Ricci
  • Putting Children First – JoAnne Pedro-Carroll
  • Parenting After Divorce – Phil Stahl
  • Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids – Christina McGhee
  • Stepfamilies – James H. Bray and John Kelly
  • The Good Divorce – Constance Ahrons
  • 101 Ways to be long-distance Super Dad or Mom – George Newman
  • Your Divorce Advisor – Diana Mercer and Marsha Kline Pruett
  • The Smart Stepmom: Practical Steps to Help You Thrive! – Ron Deal & Laura Petherbridge
  • Through the Eyes of Children – Janet Johnston, Karen Breunig, Carla Garrity, and Mitchell Baris
  • Trapped in the Mirror – by Golcomg
  • Tug of War – Harvey Brownstone

Dating, Relationship, and Marriage

  • The Relationship Cure – 5 Step Guide to Strengthen Your Marriage – John Gottman
  • The 5 Love Languages
  • Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment & How It Can Help You Find – Keep – Love
  • Smart Couples Finish Rich.  9 steps to creating a rich future for you and your spouse
  • The Magic 5 hours – The relationship cure – 5 step guide to strengthen your marriage – John Gottman
  • The Upside-Down Marriage: 12 Ways to Keep Your Marriage Right Side Up – by Jim Keller
  • Sacred Marriage – by Gary L. Thomas
  • Love and War:  Finding the Marriage You’ve Dreamed of – by John Eldredge, Stasi Eldredge
  • How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage – by Milan Yerkovich, Kay Yerkovich
  • The Emotionally Destructive Marriage – How to find your voice and reclaim your hope (Christian support)
  • Fierce Intimacy – Terry Real
  •       Why Does He Do That? – Lundy Croftman
  • Rising Strong, The Reckoning, The Rumble, The Revolution
  • Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
  • The Seven Levels of Intimacy by Matthew Kelly
  • Getting the Love you Want by Harville Hendrix and Hellen LaKelly Hunt
  • Marriage on the Rock: A Guide for discovering God’s design for your dream marriage
  •      Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parent
  •      The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values, and Spiritual Growth
  •       Should I Stay or Should I Go? – Lundy Croftman

Debt Free

  • Debt Free Living – Larry Burkett
  • The Total Money Makeover: A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness – Dave Ramsey
  • The Total Money Makeover Workbook – Dave Ramsey
  • Margin:  Restoring Emotional, Physical, Financial, and Time Reserves to Overloaded Lives
  • Living Forward: A Proven Plan to Stop Drifting and Get the Life You Want

Depression

  • The Art of Happiness – Dalai Lama & Howard Cutler
  • The Secret
  • The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want
  • The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World: Dalai Lama, Desmond Tutu

Divorce Pre-School Age – Elementary Age

  • Dinosaurs Divorce – Laurie Krasny Brown & Marc Brown
  • Where is Daddy? – Beth Goff
  • My Mother’s House, My Father’s House – C.B. Christiansen
  • My Family’s Changing – Pat Thomas
  • Two Homes by Claire Masurel
  • At Daddy’s on Saturdays – Linda Girard
  • Why are we getting a divorce? Peter Mayle
  • When My Parents Forgot How to Be Friends – Jennifer Moore-Mallinos
  • A Smart Girl’s Guide to Her Parents’ Divorce: How to Land on Your Feet When Your World Turns Upside Down
  • Why did you have to get a divorce? And WHEN can I get a Hamster? – Anthony E. Wolf
  • Why Do Families Change?

Divorce Teens and Pre-Teens

  • It’s not the end of the world – Judy Blume
  • When Divorce hits home – Bath & Thea Joselow
  • What in the World Do You Do When Your Parent’s Divorce? A Survival Guide for Kids – Kent Winchester & Roberta Beyer
  • Divorce is Not the End of the Word: Zoe ‘s & Evan’s Coping Guide for Kids – Zoe Stern

Emotional Self-Help Books

  • Emotional Agility, Susan David
  • The Gifts of Imperfections: Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are, Brene Brown
  • Attached:  The New Science of Adult Attachment & How It Can Help You Find – Keep – Love

Family Issues

  • The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World: Dalai Lama, Desmond Tutu
  • Attached:  The New Science of Adult Attachment & How It Can Help You Find – Keep – Love

Grief

  • The Other Side of Sadness – George Bonanno
  • The Grief Recovery Handbook
  • When Bad Things Happen to Good People
  • How to go on living when someone you love dies
  • The Power of Now
  • The Wild Edge of Sorrow
  • The Rebellious Widow – A Practice Guide to Love and Loss After Loss
  • The After Grief: Finding Your Way Along the Long Arc of Loss
  • It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture that Doesn’t Understand
  • Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief:  A Revolutionary Approach to Understanding and Healing the Impact of Loss
  • Bearing the Unbearable
  • A Matter of Death and Life

Grief – Child Loss

  • Loved Baby
  • No Matter How Small:  Understanding Miscarriage and Stillbirth
  • Signs:  The Secret Language of the Universe
  • The Baby Loss Guide – Zoe Clark Coates Instagram
  • This is a Pregnancy and Baby Loss
  • You Are Not Alone:  Love Letters from Loss mom to Loss Mom
  • From Father to Father:  Letters from Loss Dad to Loss Dad

Grief – Christian Faith

  • A Grace Disguised by Gerald Sittser

Infertility

  • Body Belief:  How to heal autoimmune diseases, radically shift your health & learn to love your body more, Aimee Raupp
  • Chill out and get healthy:  Live clean to be strong and stay sexy, Aimee Raupp
  • Hilariously Infertile, One Woman’s Quest to Help Woman Laugh Through Infertility
  • If at First, You Don’t Conceive: A Complete Guide to Infertility from One of the Nation’s Leading Clinics
  • Inconceivable
  • Infreakinfertility:  How to Survive Wehn Getting Pregnant Gets Hard
  • Making Babies
  • Spiritual Fertility:  Integrative Practices for the Journey to Motherhood
  • The Baby Loss Guide: Practical and Compassionate Support with a Day-by-Day Resource to Navigate the Path of Grief
  • The Ten-Year Club: A Decade of Infertility and Us
  • The Impatient Woman’s Guide to Getting Pregnant
  • The Underachieving Ovary
  • Waiting for God to Fill the Cradle:  One Month Devotional for Couples
  • When God Says “Wait”
  • Yes, You Can Get Pregnant:  Natural ways to improve your fertility now and into your 40’s, Aimee Raupp

Intimacy

She has a Podcast – Sex, Love and Elephants

  • Attached:  The New Science of Adult Attachment & How It Can Help You Find – Keep – Love

Leadership

  • Dare to Lead, Brene Brown
  • Rising Strong, The Reckoning, The Rumble, The Revolution
  • The Miracle Morning: The 6 Habits that will transform your life before 8 AM

Life Planning

  • Living Forward: A Proven Plan to Stop Drifting and Get the Life You Want
  • Rising Strong, The Reckoning, The Rumble, The Revolution
  • Attached:  The New Science of Adult Attachment & How It Can Help You Find – Keep – Love

Male Health

  • The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire
  • Buddha’s Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy – https://drcherylfraser.com/ – She has a Podcast – Sex, Love and Elephants

Narcissism

  •      Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
  •       Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare – Shahida Arabi
  •      Children of the Self-Absorbed
  • Emotional Blackmail – Susan Forward, PhD
  • Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving & Thriving with the self-absorbed
  • Healing from Hidden Abuse
  • Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
  • Narcissistic Mothers: Theresa Shahida – How Being the Daughter or Son of a Narcissistic Mother Affect Your Feelings & Your Life.
  • One Moms Battle Divorcing a Narcissist·       Healing from Hidden Abuse
  • Power: Surviving and Thriving after narcissistic abuse: Essays on Malignant Narcissist & Recovery – Shahida Arabi
  • Psychopath Free: Recovering from emotionally abusive relationships with Narcissist & Sociopaths & Other Toxic People
  • Psychopath Free – Jackson MacKenzie
  •  Should I Stay or Should I Go? A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can and Should Be Saved – Lundy Croftman
  • The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist – Debbie Mirza
  • The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us
  •  The Safest Place Possible – Debbie Mirza
  • The Verbally Abusive Relationship
  • The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists
  • Setting Boundaries will set you free: Ultimate guide to telling the truth, creating connection & finding freedom
  •  Why Does He Do That? – Lundy Croftman
  •  Will I ever be enough

Obsessive-Compulsive Behaviors

  • Overcoming Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors: Comprehensive Behavioral Treatment for Hair Pulling & Skin Picking
  • Brainlock for OCD

Parenting

  •       Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents – Lindsay C. Gibson, PhD
  • Relational Parenting:  Going Beyond Your Child’s Behavior to Meet Their Deepest Needs
  • Positive Discipline for Toddlers – Jane Nelsen

Self-Improvement 

  • Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment & How It Can Help You Find – Keep – Love
  • Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parent
  • How to Win Friends and Influence People – Dale Carnegie
  • Raving Fans – Ken Blanchard
  • Women & Self Esteem
  • The 4 Agreements – Don Miguel Ruiz
  • The Power of Now – Eckart Tolle
  • Your best life now – Joel Osteen
  • Untethered Soul – Michael Singer
  • Reinventing Your Life:  The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior and Feel Great Again
  • The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World By Dalai Lama, Desmond Tutu
  • Living Forward: A Proven Plan to Stop Drifting and Get the Life You Want
  • The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
  • You are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
  • The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level
  • You Can Heal Your Life – Louise Hay

Self-Improvement 

  • Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment & How It Can Help You Find – Keep – Love
  • Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parent
  •      How to Win Friends and Influence People – Dale Carnegie
  • Raving Fans – Ken Blanchard
  • The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
  • You are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
  • The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level
  • The 4 Agreements – Don Miguel Ruiz
  • The Power of Now – Eckart Tolle
  • Your best life now – Joel Osteen
  • Women and Self-Esteem
  • Untethered Soul – Michael Singer
  • Reinventing Your Life:  The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior and Feel Great Again
  • The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World By Dalai Lama, Desmond Tutu
  • Living Forward: A Proven Plan to Stop Drifting and Get the Life You Want
  • You Can Heal Your Life – Louise Hay

Spiritual Books

  • Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity is a Self-Help
  • You Can Heal Your Life – Louise Hay

Trauma and Healing

  • A Practical Guide to Complex PTSD – Compassionate Strategies to Begin Healing from Childhood Trauma
  • Cognitive Processing Therapy for PTSD Manual
  • Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving – A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma
  • Drama of the Gifted Child
  • Getting Past Your Past
  • Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors
  • Healing Invisible Wounds: Paths to Hope & Recovery in a Violent World
  • Healing Trauma: A Pioneering Program for Restoring the Wisdom of your Body
  • Feel It Heal It Let It Go (Includes prompts to journal) – Nicole Musap
  • Feelings Buried Alive Never Die
  • Keys to Safe Trauma Recovery: Take-Charge Strategies to Empower Your Healing
  • Highjacked Your Brain: How to Free Yourself When Stress Takes Over
  • It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle
  • It’s Not You, It’s What Happened to You: Complex Trauma & Treatment
  • Plenty of Time When We Get Home: Love & Recovery in the Aftermath of War
  • Rethinking Trauma Treatment: Attachment, Memory Reconsolidation, & Resilience
  • Taming the Fire Within: Life After War
  • The Body Keeps the Score – Dr. Bessel van der Kolk
  • The Body Remembers
  • The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Trauma and Adversity
  • The Evil Hours: A Biography of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
  • The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships
  • The Post Traumatic Growth Guidebook: Practical Mind-Body Tools to Heal Trauma, Foster Resilience & Awake Potential
  • Toxic Parents: Susan Forward Ph.D
  • Transforming Living a Legacy of Trauma
  • Trauma & Memory by Peter Levine
  • Trauma Through a Child’s Eye
  • Trauma & Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror
  • You Can Heal Your Life, Louise Hay
  • Waking the Tiger
  • What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, & Healing
  • You Can Heal Your Life – Louise Hay

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